"Why are relationships so difficult?" "Why do they take so much work?" "Why are your relationships are not working as well as you like them?"
The quick answer is that the relationship difficult, because they are so much work, because they are not working and not so good as you would like, because they do not.
Behind this glib response is the statement that we all carry in us the belief about relationships, sometimes subconsciously, and often unexamined. It is the belief that lifeis of what is to be no different. Then, when our fantasy clashes with our reality, we believe that there is something wrong with us, with the other person and with the relationship.
Do you have the movie "Romancing the Stone" with Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner? The film opens with a scene from the Old West where a woman was rescued in danger by a beautiful outlaw cowboy who returns to his wife in his arms, lifts her up on his horse and rideswith her into the sunset. It is a perfect depiction of a perfect dream relationship.
Unfortunately, it is a dream. After a short fade out, we see that the whole thing to the imagination of Kathleen Turner, the writer creates a scene in her head for a book they are working, is come out with. If the real cowboys, played by Michael Douglas, who materializes in fact the reality of who he clashes with the fantasy, what would it be Kathleen.
Within this one scene ina film is the story of all relationships. At some point in every relationship, the reality that one actually, with our imagination, we collide him or her to be like. This happens in every way, personally or professionally.
The person we thought was perfect, it is not. The task we thought would be perfect, it is not.
What we see is that there is nothing really wrong. This is exactly what should happen.
Starting aRelationship is very similar to a job interview. They are both on your best side. Small discrepancies, which are glossed over in a little more might break out and laughed at. They want to be both, "" hired by the other person.
Since, in a relationship after you have set "to one another." You can not claim that sunny disposition and "everything is perfect behavior all the time. Disagreements will inevitably arise. Some can gloss over and laughed at. Others will requireTo give talks and the willingness to have to vote.
The future of the relationship will depend on the choice you make in this moment. And it is a choice. No person will be perfect. No job is perfect. The grass is not really greener on the other side. It's just green.
If you're going to make a long term relationship to have to go, the choice to do so, because the ratio will at times be difficult to take a lot of work and do not always work as well asThey would like to.
Please take this advice from someone who has been married for 36 years. It is these moments of choice, in fact, the ratio of cement and not the moments of happiness.
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